In the spring of 2014 I found out I was pregnant with twins and started documenting my journey in a weekly post. I will be periodically posting these past writings, starting from the beginning. This was written January 12. Karson and Lucy were 14 weeks old.
“Is this normal?”
It’s a question I hear from my husband often. He’s mostly referring to the amount our sweet babies cry. I’ve learned when it comes to babies, “normal” doesn’t exist. Still, if a norm did exist, I don’t think our babies would be out of it. But just when I think I have things under control, we enter a rough patch in terms of the babies’ temperament. I usually can’t help but try to pin down the cause.
Maybe they’re going through a growth spurt, maybe they’re fighting a cold, maybe I ate something weird and it affected my milk. I’m sure they’re overtired. They’re spoiled and just want to be held all the time. Or maybe they’re just being babies?
Because we have two, I think the crying seems worse than it really is. And at the same time, I also think I’m a little more used to hearing them cry. Several times throughout the day I don’t have a choice but to let them cry. While I go to the bathroom, while I take a couple minutes to get me some lunch, while I’m changing one and the other has to wait, I simply can’t be 100% attentive to both babies at the same time, and sometimes that leads to tears. And screaming.
Sometimes, especially Lucy will have fits of crying that I can’t seem to shake. It will seem like she’s either screaming or sleeping. It’s on or off. There’s no in between. I look into her sweet eyes, so sad and forlorn. I feel helpless like there’s nothing I can do for her. She’s like a mini 16 year old who lost her date to the prom and she just needs to cry it out. That crying is usually best done on daddy’s shoulder. You can hear the progression of her wailing and can usually tell when she’s about done, ready to drift off into a sweet sleeping angel.
Dont get me wrong. It’s not like I let my babies cry. I always make sure they’re fed, dry, warm, safe and entertained. They also have plenty of time smiling and playing and such but its just that when you have two 3 month old babies, there’s bound to be a good amount of crying in your house.
I’m getting better at figuring out tricks to distract them and learning their cues that help prevent breakdowns. I’ve learned a lot in these few short months and I’ve also learned I don’t always have the answer. I don’t like it when my babies cry but it’s somewhat comforting to know that crying is a normal thing all babies, especially newborns do.
A great aunt of mine recently joined Facebook and saw that I recently had twins. She asked if my babies cry as much as I did when I was a baby. I think the answer might be yes.